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General Discussion To Gateway To Airguns => Back Room => : shawn67 July 30, 2009, 02:37:17 PM

: i lost my best friend
: shawn67 July 30, 2009, 02:37:17 PM
This is the first time I have talked about this since it happened 2 weeks ago, my wife of 16 years passed away at 39 years of age, she was not only my wife, she was my best friend Her name was Traci, she had been sick the past couple of years on and off due to lupus, she died in her sleep and our daughter found her and it has been harder on her than anyone, my wife worked as a rn for years taking care of others  before becoming sick and had just recently gotten her disability, she was one of a kind, she was my soulmate, she was a wonderful supportive wife that never gave me grief about my hobbies or anything for that matter, she was a amazing mother to our children. She had recently had a heart cath put in by a incompetent doctor who put it in backwards and there is no doubt in my mind that killed her. No amount of money will bring her back to me or stop the pain I feel,  but I will sue this Dr. So he can't kill anyone elses loved ones. I hate to put up such a sad inncident on this board but I really like this forum and the people on it, so I just want to remind you all that tommorrow is never guarenteed, tell your loved ones every chance you get how much you love and appreciate them, because you never know. Thanks for listening
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: 1shotwander July 30, 2009, 02:54:45 PM
You went to school how many years to become a doctor? You're getting paid how much a year? You've been allowed to work on how many people? Sorry but this just p*sses me off when I hear of a doctor being this incompetent!! If I were you, I would make this guy pay as much as possible, and still try and make his life a hell!!

Sorry for your loss :0
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: shawn67 July 30, 2009, 03:18:26 PM
Thank you, I'm sueing him to make sure he can't inflict this type of pain again, I'd rather see him loose his liscence than to receive one dime. Any money won in the lawsuit will go to insure the kids and grandkids are taken care of, I can't understand how a surgeon can make a mistake like this, I mean really what was this man doing when he operated drugs? I've ran the whole range of emotions from crying non-stop to wanting to take matters into my own hands, thank god I have to be here for the kids and set a good example.
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: kirby999 July 30, 2009, 03:27:15 PM
Prayers for you and your family Shawn. I am deeply sadden to hear of your experience . May you find peace . kirby
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: Dave1899 July 30, 2009, 03:29:24 PM
Shawn...I'm saddened to hear of your loss, I know this is a very hard thing to have to deal with...I've prayed for you and your daughter...
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: shawn67 July 30, 2009, 03:45:22 PM
Thank you very much Kirby
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: shawn67 July 30, 2009, 03:49:37 PM
Thank you for all your prayers David, actually she left behind 2daughters 1 son and 1 4 month old grandaughter that she was very proud of, 2 brothers and her mother
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: Big_Bill July 30, 2009, 03:54:00 PM


I will PRAY that GOD GRANTS YOU and YOURSHIS PEACE, UNDERSTANDINGand TRANQUILITY.



I know that nothing that I can say will ease your pain or comfort you, GOD BLESS !



Bill

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: shawn67 July 30, 2009, 04:12:46 PM
I thank you all for your kind words and prayers, I really told you all of this in hopes that's maybe it will make everyone realise that tommorrow may not come, so live every day as it was your last and love your families with all you have. When I married Traci she already had 2 small girls 2 and 4 that I helped her raise and love as my own, they have made me so proud as they have grown, and I'd never make it through this without them. I never in a million years thought that anything would ever happen to my wife, I always believed we would grow old together and we would be together forever, so please remember nothing is a given, I know my wife knew how much I love her but I'd give anything to be able to tell her and hold her again
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: shadow July 31, 2009, 01:14:33 AM
My deepest sympathy Shawn and mere word's cannot express it but the GTA family stand's by and support's it's family member's through good times and bad. I just lost a close friend myself but I believe that each and everyone that leaves us and this world is still around, maybe sounds odd but I talk to em often. They not answer back but their still around.  :) Ed
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: jonnnyboy July 31, 2009, 01:20:59 AM
Shawn, there are no words to help in such a time of sorrow other than, "We care, buddy and we're hurting for you."  Please know that you and your family are in our prayers and thoughts.  We would never wish this upon anyone let alone a brother in arms!  Your advice is wonderful.  Life is short and time is fleeting.  Don't lose any chance to tell our loved ones how we feel about them for one day it will be the last opportunity to do so.  We are praying for you.

"Father, bless Shawn and his family in this time of grief.  Draw them near unto You and bring Your peace upon them.  Please allow their grief to remind them of both the good times as well as the hard times they shared.  And as time passes, heal their pain and anger but strengthen their memories of this dear loved one.  All honor, praise and glory to Jesus' name, Amen!"

blessings brother,
Joe
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 01:44:46 AM
Thanks shadow, It doesn't sound weird to me at all shadow, I feel her presence around me all the time, its like a warm glow and calm feeling that comes over me especially when I'm really upset, my daughter has felt it to when she was trying to clean her moms closet, I've never felt anything like it before. I believe its her spirit trying to make us feel better
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 01:46:47 AM
Ahmen, thank you so much
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: longislandhunter July 31, 2009, 02:01:10 AM
So sorry to hear of your loss Shawn.  You and your family will be in my prayers.

Jeff
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: Bogey July 31, 2009, 02:10:26 AM
Shawn, I am truly sorry for your loss.  I wish I could say something that would make sence of it all for you and your family.  

You can only take this one day at a time,  and some day the pain will hopefully fade.
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 02:13:33 AM
Thank you Jeff
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 02:19:07 AM
Thanks I know she is in a better place and I will see her again, I take comfort in that and knowing how much she loved me, and I have 3 kids- well young adults and a beautiful grandbaby too think of now
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: Magnum July 31, 2009, 02:37:57 AM
Shawn, I am so sorry to hear this news, you and your family will be in my prayers. Tony
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 02:47:29 AM
Thank you Tony
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: gamo2hammerli July 31, 2009, 02:59:27 AM
Prayers going out to you and your family.  Take care.
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: North Pack July 31, 2009, 03:11:17 AM
Shawn, - I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. She was so damn young, - unbelievable, hang in there my friend.
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 03:34:58 AM
Thank you, yes she was very young, which is why I say make everyday count, if there is one thing I could change it would have been to have spent more time with her doing anything, I used to dread going shopping with her because it took forever she looked at everything in the store, where I know what I want before I go and I'm in and out, now I would give anything I have just to follow her around the store pushing the cart and letting her try on everything.  Life is short enjoy it all while you can.
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: CharlieDaTuna July 31, 2009, 04:12:41 AM
Shawn... my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. We all know that there is a time we will be called and we often ask, why is this the time?  Why now?

 Only He knows.

 It is as you said, very important that we express our love to everyone and especially our parents,  spouses and children because we never know for sure that there will be enough time for the next time and it  might be to late. And if you believe, you will see her again. May the Lord shine his face upon you and your family.
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 04:17:15 AM
Thank you very much Bob
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: lillysdad621 July 31, 2009, 12:35:46 PM
My prayers to you and your family... I am recently married and already could not imagine your suffering. One day you'll be reunited, of that at least i am sure...
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 12:49:10 PM
Thank you
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: dw33 July 31, 2009, 01:25:06 PM
I am sorry to hear about your loss.
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: TCups July 31, 2009, 02:02:55 PM
Sincere condolences for your loss.

Dr. TCups
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: Timmyj1959@yahoo.com July 31, 2009, 03:40:33 PM
I dont have words. My Prayers are with you. My wife is my life. Im so sorry Buddy. Tim.
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: ShadowShot July 31, 2009, 03:53:57 PM
shawn,

My prays, concerns and sympathy are with you and your family.
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: VINNY July 31, 2009, 06:52:20 PM
I am very sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.
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: shawn67 July 31, 2009, 07:41:40 PM
Thank you all very much for you thoughts and prayers. God Bless
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: Tn.Reb August 01, 2009, 12:29:33 PM
Shawn our prayer's and condolence's to you and your's
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: USNCop August 03, 2009, 02:34:04 PM
My heart and prayers go out to you and the family.
God Blees!
: So sorry for your great Loss...
: BumbleShot August 05, 2009, 11:30:37 AM
My greatest condolences.  

I hope you are surrounded by great friends and family.  I can't imagine how must feel.

Neil
: Sorry Shawn, thanks for reminding us all to cherrish.
: Sniperdad69 August 06, 2009, 02:34:31 PM
Just know that we are here for you.
We can not fully understand your grief, but we will be the first ones to listen.
My friends through the airgunning community have always been here for me.
We will pray for you and your children, just keep the good memories alive, encourage your children to emulate there mom's best qualities.

Cheers, David.
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: DANULSON988 August 07, 2009, 01:10:01 AM
When I read your post, I immediately almost teared up myself. I am so sorry you have to go through this, but remember you are not alone. I feel your pain. stay strong and do remember that your family is counting on you to help them to be strong as well.
Damn that sucks so bad.
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: BJames August 07, 2009, 07:03:47 AM
I'm sorry for your loss.  I cannot imagine.  You and your family are in my prayers
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: only1harry August 08, 2009, 04:10:39 AM
I cannot imagine what you and your daughter (kids) are going through.  I am very sorry for your loss.  Very good friends of ours lost their son at the age of 10 a few years ago from a severe ceisure and I felt devestated.  I cannot imagine what they felt.  It takes very strong people to recover from this.  You must be strong for your children and stay busy with activities and visit your relatives often.  The children must feel like they are not "alone" and are still loved, by others in your family and your wife's (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc.).

This has been a bad week.  My friend lost his wife to cancer on Monday, she was in her 50's.
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: HILMAN76 August 08, 2009, 06:28:39 AM
YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WILL BE IN OUR PRAYERS. STAY STRONG.