I tighten mine fairly tight, then back off 1/4 turn or so till I hear the slight hiss. Never dumped a cartridge that way. Your problem sounds more like a leaky valve stem, or an over sprung hammer valve or really undersprung valve return spring. Have you perhaps over shimmed the hammer spring? Easy way to tell what's going on is where is the air coming out? If it's coming out of the cap then obviously there is something wrong with the o-ring there, if it comes out the barrel, then it's a problem with the valve not closing tight. IF it sounds like the air is escaping from somewhere else, it might be the oring around the valve that seals it inside the air chamber. Other than those three places, the only other seals as I recall are the transfer port, barrel and the bolt breach o-ring....none of these will cause you to dump air like that, just lose power. Also, normal hardware store plumbing seals don't work for the cap and valve orings, the material absorbs CO2 and makes them swell then leak...I think someone here mentioned Viton o-rings here, not buna. If it's the knock open valve seal (which it sorta sounds like), you might just try dissassembling and looking for dirt or whatever under the sealing face. Have you been wiping your cartridges off before installation? A little dirt on a caplet will gum that valve up pretty fast. Good luck,
Dan